As a self-diagnosed ADD-afflicted old lady, I’m sure of one thing—I don’t say Oops when once again I have lost/mislaid something I need right now. I swear at myself out loud, as in “Damn it anyway Maggy!” Oops, however, is the recommended expletive in two blogs about losing things and the wandering mind.
“Oops Where Did I Leave It?” is title of a blog at a very nice website for Seniors http://www.suddenlysenior.com/levin-where-did-i-leave-it.html. I happened upon it Googling for the Latin word for losing things–they have a word for everything, right? It was to be the title of a blog on an entirely different topic than this comment on the word Oops.
Second blog “Oops! Discovering the Wandering Mind” comes from the University of Wellington in Canada (Ontario) http://arts.uwaterloo.ca/~oops/index.php. Its editor is the Psychology Department. I’ll admit, adding Oops probably is what intrigued me into checking out this blog. but how come Oops?
I do say Oops but, if I think about it, always for mistakes in physical actions–dropping things inadvertently, passing the exit for a place I’m driving to, putting on my slacks backward, pouring too much Worcestershire when I only intended a few drops, playing the wrong card from my bridge hand. Things like that. Oops sounds too light-hearted for my seeming congenital inability to stay focused. Getting sidetracked, going off on tangents. Like this Oops blog.
Two things I learned Google-wandering.
Suddenly Senior offered one helpful solution I think could work for me to help stop losing some things. Instead of the little gadget hanging on the door my daughter gave me (and it does work!) where I store keys soon as I come in the house, have a basket where I can put EVERYTHING I am always losing. A temporary drop-off basket. Cell phone, car keys, checkbook, eyeglasses, sunglasses, all notes I write on scraps of paper or sticky notes while home and while out and then mislay, debit card expenditures to post in checkbook, etc. etc.
From U of Waterloo? I learned it’s not accurate to say “absent-minded” because we’re always present-minded somewhere. Wander-minded is more accurate.
I like that better too because makes a cure sound more do-able–exercising your stay-focused mental muscle just like you do push-ups to exercise your body. Absent-minded sounds too amorphous to do anything about. Think I’ll try that—30 minutes to start–every morning of NO MIND-WANDERING OR EMAIL OR GOOGLING. 30 minutes of mind-present activities!
Here’s the irony. Hours later, because of Googling-wandering did finish an unintended blog but still haven’t written the apology!
I think there’s room for a bit of humor from each of those two websites:
“These days, I spend a lot of time thinking about the hereafter. I go to get something, and then wonder what I am here after.”